One year ago today I thought I would be delivering my son.
God had other plans.
For a control freak like me, labor & delivery was a lesson in trusting The Lord. I had planned out in my head how everything was "supposed" to go. However, things didn't work out that way. On Friday I'll share Graham's complete birth story with you. Let's just say it was one of the few moments of my life that God clearly spoke to me.
As I mentioned above, I'm a bit of a control freak. Type A if you will. When I was pregnant I spent those 9 long months reading books, blogs, forums, whatever I could find to help prepare me. Looking back I've realized there are some facts that are rarely ever mentioned. With so many of my friends becoming moms I feel the need to share.
1 - You will lose an OBSCENE amount of hair! Seriously. I thought I was balding. No I take that back - I was balding! I looked at some beach pictures from this past summer and I definitely had premature balding at my hairline. Lucky me, now it's all growing back. FYI - baby hair in adulthood is terrible. I can't control it, it's all over the place! For me hair loss started around 4 months postpartum and lasted about 4 months. Every time I washed my hair I would leave literally a ponytail in the shower. I felt like a shedding dog, my hair was everywhere. Poor Josh.
2 - You will be in pain. And I don't mean the obvious pain of stitches, tears, abdominal surgery that so many of us experience. I'm talking about your joints! I literally thought I was 80 years old. I couldn't walk up the stairs without my knees popping and cracking. It started a few weeks after I delivered so I had no idea what was wrong with me. After researching and finding some (barely any) information online, I realized our changing hormones affect our joints. Ouch, I was so glad when that was over and I could exercise again.
3 - You will be a hormonal MESS. You might think something is wrong with you. Don't worry, it's normal. It started a few days after delivery for me and lasted less than a week. I had no idea why but I would just get so upset. Luckily my mother stayed with us that first week and she knew exactly what was going on (aren't Moms the best). It helped me to talk about it and take a break. We were still living in our small 1200 square feet condo after I had Graham and it would feel like the walls were closing in on me. Mom would watch Graham while I took a walk around the neighborhood. The sunshine and fresh air helped tremendously. Then after a few days I felt like myself again.
(If you have similar feelings that seem to last more than a couple of weeks, contact your doctor. Postpartum depression is real and affects many women. You don't have to suffer!)
So mamas, if you just delivered and start experiencing any or all of these don't worry! You're not alone! Just know that being a mother is the BEST feeling in the world. I wouldn't trade it for anything! Your heart is going to experience a love like you've never known. Get ready!
Did I miss anything? Was there something you wished someone would have warned you about when you were pregnant?
With love & gratitude,